What is the key to being happy during a pandemic you ask? When you’re sick of reality and you can’t do anything about it, where do you turn? I’ve been asking myself these questions this year as 2020 crawls by and as I reflect on my life, and the lives of my loved ones. I can honestly say I am happier now than I have ever been, while I see so many around me living in sadness and isolation. How is this possible? Honestly, life has never been harder or more confusing, and still I’ve never been more centered or whole despite the hardship. So what is the key to being happy during this time?
Don’t get me wrong, life is still challenging and full of surprises, constantly. Obviously the world is in turmoil and at a breaking point. People are struggling like never before. The pain and injustice is real. But with all of that pain comes a wake-up call like humanity has never experienced before. Not only is our technology on the precipice of pushing the the future envelope, but so are our emotions and human connections. The question is, are we tuned into them and open to the changes?
2020 has served as a marker, a reality check that is forcing us all to take a long hard look in the mirror and go “what is wrong in this life and what can I realistically do about it”?
In order to fix your life, you first have to acknowledge what isn’t working. You have to get really clear on the reality of your world. Are you in healthy relationships? Are you eating right? Are you treating your body well? Are you getting exercise and is there balance in your life? Are you settling for less? If there answer is no, then there is much work to do.
If YOU are not putting in the work to make YOUR life flourish, then DO SOMETHING! This means reading, educating yourself, learning new recipes, and upping your game. Invest in a new hobby or school, or seek out new friendships if you’re lacking there. Complacency is a sure fire road to despair.
I’ve asked some of my network what is the trick to staying happy during this time. These are a few of the answers that I got back:
“But staying centered and calm. You can get out and soak up Nature. You can nurture new Creative directions. You can spread Kindness, Laughter, and Wisdom. There are so many things to explore and learn from instead of choosing anxiety and being bored.” – David Harvey.
Atrina Lovekins says, “Recognizing that happiness is a fleeting feeling that you can only recognize when compared to sadness. So instead of seeking “happy”, I seek “satisfied”, “relaxed, and “hopeful”; and make an active effort to recognize the more “negative” feelings as being required for that thing called “happiness”, and just wait for those moments to pass. Because they do. Everything is temporary.”
I’ve been saying to my friends who inquire about my attitude, that if you are not happy right now in your bubble, then it’s time to change your bubble. So often we get so comfortable in the familiar, that we forget that with a little hard work, life could be radically different. Why settle?
Getting ultra comfortable in the uncomfortable right now is where it’s at, and is the first key to being honestly happy. Being HONEST with yourself will be your greatest tool in this process. It’s okay to be depressed and sad and unhappy. It’s not okay to do nothing about it.
Start with a list of all of the things that bring you joy: Protesting, dancing, eating food, music, reading, writing, research, electronics, weed, cooking, teaching, children, dogs, dancing, music, nature, spirit…
Next, pick something everyday to spend five minutes on that you enjoy. Maybe longer, but at the least, five minutes! Start there.
Now sure, you might say “but I am broke I don’t have any money”, however there are lots of things you can do that don’t require money; just a little creativity. There are lots of ways to get around doing activities without spending anything. See a thing you want but can’t afford? See if you can volunteer or write the company and just ask. Tweet at them and see what happens. You never know what lines you are going to catch when you cast. Another thing about money most people don’t realize is that when you have more money, you just have more problems. The problems are not the same as having no money, but certainly more money doesn’t equal less problems. The problems are just different.
And sure there are still some days that I don’t get out of bed, eat chocolate, watch Netflix, use up some sick days and IRON IT OUT. Sometimes you HAVE to go inside to recharge. What an incredible opportunity to be able to focus on mental health right now! Are you taking advantage of it?
One trick I’ve discovered is to find the right song to wake up to and use that as your alarm clock. Let the technology work for you! Put some ritual into your life. I have made it my mission to talk to the moon, not only daily if possible, but certainly at the new moon I call in new energy, and on the full moon I let old shit go. If you think of the moon like a microphone; like an amplifier that magnifies whatever you put into it, and then talk to it regularly like a good friend; like you would like to your ancestors or to God. Remember, the universe does not recognize “what” or “not”. For example, you don’t say “I don’t want to be fat”, you say “I want to be healthy and slim and fit and feel good in my body.” We also must be as in love with the divine yes as the divine no. You put it out there and let it unfold. If you are not trying this religiously and with conviction, then you may never know how powerful you really are!
Magic is really just alchemy; it is the combining of human life with molecular and biological tools to strengthen our innate powers, and we are powerful beings of consciousness. Don’t let it go untapped. A little bit of plant medicine can go a long with when shaping your state of mind and life force.
An additional and final way I’ve discovered to bring joy into your life is to start bringing joy into the lives of others. Give it all away with a good attitude. Somebody will notice, but that’s not even the point. Give freely without expectation of return. We get what we put out there back ten fold. Let it multiply!
Who gets to be happy during a pandemic you ask? Those that choose to be.
So find something that makes you happy and do that.
Even if it kills you.
We are all just one big network of aligned minds pushing the envelope of consciousness forward. Be about it!